Deprogramming is a thing held in silence by those who age well as something that creeps up on you.
All those people who woke up one day in Alzheimers to realize disorientation could most easilly be fixed by changing the channel on the television may not have risked the kind of love that's missed even when your brain tells you it was never there in your memories.
Here today. Gone tomorrow.
For those who risked it's not easy to wake into the real world and dream of the kind of life you mght have lived if you'd only kept yourself on the beaten track.
We have two genders we humans, and many more besides we don't talk about as often as those others would like. The constraints make heroes out of people who break out during the hard times when the cycle of the nest issues forth the problem of demographic majorities scavenging the undecided margins for something fresh. Hence, the 'lid' on promiscuity. It's when you have a nana who decides there must be a patsy in all of this that One Ring to Rule Them All somehow gets forged from the fire and decisions about how red the cape is must be put off until the dust settles.
Men and women have their heroes - if you can stand today's Swift Tuttle insults and regard the Warrior versus Slutted Whore as germain to your tribal instinct then you've probably woken to the free channels in your 21st century delirium. There's only a critical sacrifice in your future, and a community psychology of tinitis by proxy. You'll pay for repairs over a lifetime and what you purchase in doing so is work. At least until some efficient need for revenue in another stream obsoletes the market trade in the deficiency by which your cohort earns a living. The MBA knows all about this and loads a card with this stuff to afford mansions with tended gardens. Given the machine in which they articulate, squeeze, and depress, everyone has time to learn what to expect so it only comes as a surprise not as a shock when money moves mountains before people have a chance to get out of the way.
There are other heroes on another side of some geo-locative fence which in containing all the newly wrangled localizations define the tax front and trade imbalances. These heroes straddle barbed wire cultures, languages and ethnicities. Whether they also come from the wrong side of the tracks may depend on how deeply ingrained the gated community has become in your locale - and, today, the price of and availability of curated solutuons to enhance basic intelligence and competitive edge.